Pathfinder Guidebook · FYE 100 Module 2 · Building Your Support System
10 Essential Skills in this module
  • 1Communication
  • 4Interpersonal Relations
  • 9Knowledge Application
Lesson 2.1

Skill Spotlight: Interpersonal Relations

Interacting effectively with people, and understanding what you bring to every relationship.

About 5 minutes 1 of 9 in this module
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10 Essential Skills · #4

Interpersonal Relations

What this skill is

Interpersonal Relations is about more than being friendly.

It's the ability to understand yourself well enough to interact effectively with others: to recognize how your own background, experiences, and perspective shape every conversation you have, and to engage respectfully with people who see things differently than you do. In college, at work, and in life, the people around you will be different from you in ways that matter. This skill is what lets you work alongside them, and learn from them, anyway.

Where you're headed

Kentucky describes this skill at different levels. Below, in plain terms, is the difference between where most students start and where you're headed.

See also

Lesson 1.2 explains Benchmark, Milestone, and Capstone.

  1. Benchmark Where you're starting

    • You can describe your own perspective and experiences.
    • You recognize that other people have different perspectives than yours.
    • You understand that those differences affect how people interact.

  2. Milestone Your target

    • You can explain how your own background and experiences shape your relationships, not just that they do.
    • You actively look for positive ways to connect and work with others.
    • You engage with multiple perspectives, ideas, and beliefs instead of noticing them from a distance.

You don't have to become a different person to move from Benchmark to Milestone. What grows is your awareness of how you show up, and your intention to show up well.

Where it shows up in this module

This whole module is interpersonal relations in practice.

  • Mapping your support team means looking honestly at your relationships: who's in your corner, how they help, and what makes it hard to lean on them.
  • Reaching out to your Success Coach is a professional, specific, intentional interaction, the kind of behavior Milestone describes.
  • Asking for help means getting past what usually gets in the way, which is almost always interpersonal: pride, fear of judgment, or not knowing how to ask.
  • Talking with classmates whose situations are different from yours, and engaging with what they actually said, is how this skill grows.

In your own life

You don't have to write anything down. Just sit with these questions for a moment.

Reflect
  • Think about a relationship that matters to you: a friend, a family member, a coworker. How has your background or experience shaped how you show up in that relationship?
  • Is there someone in your life whose perspective is very different from yours? What have you learned from that difference, or what has made it hard?
  • When you think about asking for help, what gets in the way? Is any of that connected to how you see yourself in relation to other people?

How it shows up later

At the end of this course, you'll write or record four short STAR(T) Stories: three for assigned skills (Adaptability & Leadership, Professionalism, and Knowledge Application) and one for a skill you choose. Interpersonal Relations is one of the most common choices for that fourth story, because it shows up in almost every meaningful experience students reflect on.

As you move through the semester, notice moments when how you interacted with someone (a teammate, an instructor, a stranger in a group project) made a real difference in what happened. Those are your stories. Start paying attention now.

Skill definition and Milestone indicators are based on the Kentucky Council on Postsecondary Education's Kentucky Graduate Profile (opens in a new tab).